Time seems to be flying by and there is so much going on lately in our world that I felt called to talk to you about how you are processing those things right now. Of course, the first step is to recognize and accept how we are feeling. Sometimes that can be hard, we are so used to “pushing thru” that we often can’t name what we are feeling, we just know that something is off or that we feel yucky.
One way to get in touch with your feelings is to journal. Give yourself the prompt of right now I am feeling…. Set a timer for 5-8 mins. Then just let yourself write, no editing, no trying to understand, just write. Let whatever needs to come out, flow through your pen. Afterward, allow yourself to read and deeply listen to what the body had to share. You may want to journal again, more purposefully this time about ways to cope with those feelings or your plan to meet the needs you see within.
Another way to tune in to your feelings is to go out in nature. Go for a leisurely walk with the intention of getting in touch with yourself and your feelings. The trick here is to clear the mind and be open to what Pacha Mama has to say/show us. Taking a leisurely walk while thinking about your to do list, won’t help. We have been so trained to think, think, think. I’d invite you to decide and imagine/sense/feel dropping down into your heart space at the beginning of the walk and intend to be curious and open.
After we have gotten in touch with our feelings and taken time to care for our needs; we can choose and begin seeing from a higher perspective. How do we do that? We simply take a few deep breaths and ask to see this from a place of Love or Higher Consciousness.
Now if you’re wondering who you are asking, that’s up to you. You could ask your Higher Self. You could ask the Universe. You could ask Spirit. You could ask your helpers and guides. You could ask Gaia. You see, we are all one. Therefore, asking is asking all that is; is asking the Love that created the universe, the Love that makes the planets revolve around the Sun. The Love that makes trillions of cells form a human or a tree or a cat. Love is infinite. Love is who you are at your core; behind all the stories your mind tells you. Love is who we all are!! So ask whomever feels right to you; ask to see from a higher perspective.
Or you could simply say, I am willing to see this differently. Willingness and intention open the door to step into a higher awareness, where everything is seen more.
Here is a short video with Light Language and Sound to help you process your feelings and assist with stepping into a higher perspective. Higher Perspective
I do have 2 healing events in September, the info is below. I would Love to be in Sacred Space with you!
Next time we will explore more about the resonance of Pacha Mama and her creation.
Events coming in September. I’d love to be in Sacred Space with you!
Guilt has been coming up for so many of us lately. As we live in the energies of the recent solar eclipse for the next several months we are being asked to look at our shadow sides or the parts of ourselves that we would rather not be there. I decided I would look up the official definition of guilt; it is defined as “the fact of having committed a specific or implied defense”. And there are times when each of us has felt guilty for something that we have done or not done or that we wish we could do differently. I think this is a human emotion to encourage living in integrity. Guilt is however an emotion to be experienced, not lived in.
The dictionary also had an informal definition of guilt, used as a verb; “make (someone) feel guilty, especially in order to induce them to do something.” So often we have been taught by life to feel guilty for so many things, in ways that do not really make sense, logically. How many of us can look back at family history and see that guilt was the weapon of choice used by so many families for generation after generation. Or can look back and see that the choices made from guilt lead us to dark, heavy, difficult experiences.
The reality is that no matter how we experience guilt, it can keep us stuck. Let’s look at how that works. Guilt is a lower vibrational feeling. So, when we allow ourselves to sit down in guilt, to become overwhelmed by regret or shame, we are lowering our vibration. Which keeps us from being able to see from a higher perspective, making it much more difficult to find the momentum of change and growth.
These heavy energies can get stuck on our emotional bodies and cause a host of physical and mental challenges. Because guilt is an emotion that is experienced in the moment, when guilt becomes a way of life it manifests as depression, shame, unworthiness, self-sabotage and more. When we repeatedly feel guilty for our thoughts, feelings, opinions or actions; we begin to question our own agency or ability to make valid choices, our worthiness to be loved and accepted, our value.
Guilt and shame is also a tool used by the mind (or ego) to keep things the same, safe, comfortable and familiar. Yes, even though guilt is an uncomfortable feeling, it is known, we know what to expect and what is expected from us…. The reason our minds want us to stay the same is because change is unknowable, uncomfortable, even scary.
The truth is that everything always changes. Nothing ever stays the same. You and I are not the same people we were yesterday. The “idea” that things stay the same is just that, an idea. An illusion created by the mind.
As many of my fellow “Seekers” have experienced, healing, transformation, spiritual growth seems to draw us; it seems to be woven into the fabric of reality; calling our names, beckoning us to surrender to the flow of love that creates the universe through us, as us. If everything changes, why not put our intention and focus on changing in a way that will best serve ourselves and the world.
Working with and letting go of guilt will cause change, it will allow for higher vibrational energies. Those higher vibes will encourage us to see from a higher perspective, from a place of love and compassion, for ourselves and others. Letting go of guilt even seems to deepen the connection to our authentic selves, allowing for a redefining of values, relationships and self-worth. Stepping out of guilt allows for being more present, more open, more at peace and more joy.
As I have walked my own journey I found 5 stones that are helpful in releasing and transmuting guilt.
Peridot –opens, cleanses and activates the heart and solar plexus chakras and releases old hurts, wounds and guilt. It is a stone of compassion. Teaches to detach from outside influences to look within for guidance. Peridot encourages doing the work to release patterns and old vibrations so that a new path or direction can be found. It has a friendly energy and is excellent for healing. It enhances confidence and assertiveness, balanced by patience and clarity of thought.
Larimar – Spiritually empowering, dissolving boundaries that constrain the spiritual self and guiding to the soul’s true path. Larimar removes self-imposed blockages, dissolves self-sabotaging behavior, especially a tendency toward martyrdom. It is particularly helpful with removing guilt and fear while healing trauma to the heart. When moving through periods of stress or change, it enables meeting challenges with balance. Larimar is a stone of clear communication, provides strength and courage to speak openly from the heart.
Chrysocolla – gives renewed strength and balance. Calms, cleans and reenergizes all the chakras and aligns them with the divine. Draws out guilt and reverses destructive emotional programming. Heals heartache and increases the capacity to love. Improves communication, encourages growth and opens psychic vision. Encourages self-awareness and inner balance. Enhances personal power and creativity.
Chiastolite – Cross Stone – a powerful protective stone. Dissolves illusions, clears feelings of guilt, stabilizes emotions and calms fears, enabling you to face reality. Aids in transition from one situation to another and with releasing unhealthy patterns and conditioning. Aids with problem solving by strengthening analytic capabilities. Assist in tuning into soul’s purpose. Aid in changing negative energy into positive, and fosters harmony and peace. Stimulates and energizes the root chakra as well as the crown chakra. This energy will then aid the activation of both the earth chakra below your feet and the soul star chakra above the head.
Sodalite – instills a drive for truth and an urge toward optimism making it possible to remain true to yourself and stand for your beliefs. It eliminates confusion, fear and guilt. it encourages rational thought, objectivity, truth and intuitive perception together with verbalizing feelings. Sodalite stimulates releasing habitual thoughts, behaviors and limiting beliefs. It also fosters knowledge, logic, rationality, efficiency, learning, consciousness, communication and wisdom.
May these amazing crystals be helpful to you on your journey to transmute guilt, shame and regret.
When someone we love is angry with us. Or experiencing emotions we don’t quite understand. Or has pulled away. We have choices.
One choice is to continue loving them. Believing in them. Holding space for them. Yes, we feel our own feelings. We honor that we are sad or hurt. And we nurture ourselves through those feelings. But despite what we are feeling, we remember we love them. We let ourselves see who they really are, the very reason we love them. And we recognize that they are going through something. That something is part of their processs. Part of their Becoming. So we take a deep breath and we love…
Lets be clear, holding space doesn’t mean we are approving of the other’s behaviors. Just that we are letting go. Holding a vision for the Highest Good of all involved. That we have enough wisdom to remember that we ourselves have done, felt, said things that we later could see were not in alignment with who we want to be. Holding space means we understand that being human is sometimes difficult and that sometimes life is hard. Holding space means that we understand that each of us has lessons about living to learn. And that some of us learn quickly and others of us have to take more difficult paths. And most importantly, I think, holding space means we stay out of judgment and reaction. That we do the inner work that allows us to be at peace while we are experiencing difficult or painful situations.
The other option often feels much easier, because it is comfortable, we are familiar with it. Used to it. We let the others behavior become part of our story. (When I speak of “story” I am speaking of the things we tell ourselves about who we are and how the world sees us) What that means about us. What that means about them. What others might think about us. And the story grows. And the feelings about the story grow. And the story, the one we just made up in our head, becomes our truth. When it actually may not be based in reality at all. When it’s really only one possibility in a magnificent ocean of possibilities.
And I wonder, is the story really just an escape route from feeling the original feelings and looking at our selves; a bypass around the work we need to do on ourselves to evolve. What part did I play in this? Where do I need to grow or change? Why am I reacting this way? Do I need to set boundaries or is it time for my boundaries to change? Am I being called to act from a Higher Perspective? Am I being asked to trust or surrender or forgive?
If we react to the situation, we may be losing an opportunity to evolve, to raise consciousness, to be the change we want to see. If we react we may cause harm to the other. We may burn bridges that we don’t want to burn. We may slip into depression or withdraw. Because when we react, we are reacting from a place of hurt. That place that Eckhart Tolle calls the pain body, holds all of the hurts from the past. So reacting from that place of hurt causes our reaction to be bigger and stronger than is often appropriate. And reacting from there reinforces the subconscious belief that I am not responsible for my actions, my feelings and my choices.
It’s hard to be open, honest and vulnerable with ourselves!! That’s were growth, evolution beings. And it feels like “holy cow! Now I have to do what!” But when we see things happening over and over in our life, we have to go within. And find the lesson. Then, once we have taken an honest look, we can be grateful for the teacher.
Protecting Your Mood as the Days Shorten into Winter
As the days shorten, leaves fall, and cold starts to creep in, we need to protect our mood, our emotional wellbeing. There are some simple acts of self-care that can help. I know, we hear self-care sometimes and kinda roll our eyes, and think yeah, yeah….. But when we are healthy, happy and hopeful; we are so much better in the world, in our relationships, in our spiritual journeys. And if we are really honest we owe it to creation, the creator, each other, ourselves to be our best highest self. So carve out some time for You as we enter a time of stillness and introspection.
Make time to get outside. As the days shorten, our time in the sun diminishes so does our vitamin D. Vitamin D is an important part of keeping our mood balanced. So in the fall and winter we need to make time to go outside when we can. Maybe take a walk at lunch. Take a break mid afternoon and just go sit in the sun for 15 mins.
Get a plant for your desk or buy yourself flowers at the grocery store. Live plants give of oxygen and help to purify the air. And bringing nature inside helps us to be more hopeful. My hubby calls our kitchen “the jungle” in the winter, but I love it! (Pic of the Jungle below.)
Rocks! Of course rocks! Crystals can assist with balancing mood. Lithium, Amber, Moss Agate, Orange Calcite and Black Obsidian are just a few. See Traveling Wands Here
Carve out some time to be with friends and loved ones. Winter’s cold can cause us to stay in more, be more isolated and that loneliness can lead to the blues. So choose to spend time with people that make you smile, that both share and listen and that really get you.
Listen to music, sing or tone. Music uses more of our brain that any other activity. Music can lift our mood, change our perspective, even raise our vibration. However, be careful of the music you choose, sad music can make us sadder. So choose songs that make you feel good and sing your heart out.
Be careful of your food choices. Cold weather causes many of us to look for “comfort” foods. But too many carbs and not enough raw fruits and veggies can impact our mood.
Meditate…. Even if you start with 15 mins a day. Meditation has been scientifically proven to lower stress and improve outlook. It brings us back to center, reminds us of who we really are and why we are here on the beautiful planet. Meditation is simple, but not easy, but the effort is so worth it. You can find lots of guided meditations on the web. I use music with Bi-neural Technology. Bi-neural beats help to induce a relaxed state of mind, and who doesn’t need that.
And remember, if you feel your self struggling with depression, find a good counselor to talk to. Struggling with depression alone is never a good idea. And there is always HOPE, even when we can’t feel it.
Here’s to a great fall and winter full of hope and Munay!